Lets face it! It’s no secret that having children is an extremely time consuming job. Between crying babies, diaper changes, playdates, activities, cooking, cleaning (the list goes on….and on), the less energy we have to give to ourselves. I’ve heard this one saying time and time again – “Once you become a parent, life is no longer about you”… but I’d beg to disagree. Life is no longer JUST about you, but trust me hunny – you still matter! As mothers, we’re handed a laundry list of roles and responsibilities that we fulfill for the sake of our children but I don’t believe that means we need to run ourself ragged with no regard for our wants and needs.
We give so much of ourselves to our kids, and rightfully so; being responsible for another life (our lives) is no small task but in the same breath I’m a HUGE advocate of taking the “me-time” we all need to fulfill ourselves as individuals and fill ourselves back up. The only way we can give our children the best is if we are continuously working to become the best version of ourselves and that requires some tender-loving “SELF-CARE”.
So…..whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, whether you have one child or 5 little ones running circles around you, whether you’re married or are a single mom – whatever your situation, we ALL need time for ourselves. What that time looks like will be different for all of us based on our needs but below are 5 essential ways I believe are important in investing back into yourself:
- Take Some Quiet Time – not all of us have hours upon hours to devote to ourselves but we can definitely find at least a few minutes throughout the day to sit with ourselves. For me, this comes through my morning meditation, which I usually do in bed before Steele wakes up. It’s a great way for me to set my intentions for the day, channel my thoughts and focus on the positive energy I want to surround myself with. Somedays I only get 2-3 minutes by myself and other days I sit for 30 minutes in peace & quiet but taking this time allows me to cleanse my internal thoughts before I get started with my day.
- Create A Routine – and try to stick to it as much as possible. If that’s coffee & a newspaper every morning, pilates class once a week or catching up with friends once a month, schedule time for things that you enjoy and make you happy. And actually DO THEM!
- Take Care Of Your Body – what you do to it, what you put in it…it all counts. Find ways to fulfill your mind, body & spirit/soul. During this pregnancy, I’ve found solace in my workouts, in my personal development, in cooking for myself and my family – which all play a role in fueling my body with the things it needs.
- Pursue Personal Passions – we all have things that spark our interest, whether big or small. This could be picking up a new hobby that you immerse yourself in while the kids are napping or even taking up a part time job. Whatever it is that lights your fire, allow yourself the time to explore and try new things.
- Do What You Love – ultimately, surround yourself with things (and people) that make you HAPPY. Your happiness will directly correlate with how you interact with your children and the energy you give off to them.
My hope is that this posts inspires you all to take a little extra time for yourselves, get to know yourselves, pamper yourselves, LOVE yourselves. On that note, I’m going to schedule this prenatal massage that I desperately need and have been procrastinating about.
MUCH LOVE TO YOU LADIES!! xx